My Story

The truth is, I was never really prepared to be a father.

I drifted through some of the most important decisions of my life without giving them the attention they deserved. I was too distracted—work, career, hobbies, and all the other responsibilities that come with being an adult took up most of my mental space.

My wife and I decided to have kids mainly because we knew time was ticking, and there were health risks if we waited much longer.

But everything changed the moment our first baby was born. Everything.

Over the years, we all create routines that keep us grounded. We need some balance—whether it's social interaction, a sense of accomplishment, intellectual challenge, relaxation, or just a little "me time." Having a baby doesn't just disrupt that balance—it completely breaks it, and you have to start from scratch.

For most dads, this is where things get tough. You feel off-balance, like you can’t give your best to your family, and that guilt starts building. Stress and anxiety soon follow.

I had to give up PC gaming entirely, sell all my Magic: The Gathering cards, cancel board game nights, and for months, I barely saw my friends.

But here’s the thing: it gets better.

The challenges don’t disappear as your kids grow—they just change. But watching my children grow into the incredible little humans they are? That makes every sacrifice worth it.

Yes, my kids have frustrated me more than I ever thought possible, but they’ve also filled me with more joy and pride than I could have imagined.